Guys here is a question, why do you think women spend so much time, in some cases hours, getting ready to go out to nightclubs and bars? Answer, because they want to be hit on.
Some may argue "Women don't dress up for men; they do it for other women." This could be true, but this means that women dress up to compete with other women for male attention. In other words, one of the reasons women put so much time and effort into their image is to see who gets hit on the most by men.
There isn't some universal way for you to pick up women. Every girl is different. Unfortunately we constantly see guys making fools of themselves trying to talk or dance with girls in ways that 99% of the time doesn’t work. But don’t worry, we can advise you on some Do’s and Don’ts on picking up woman and give you some insight on how to approach the ladies in a club.
DO’s
First introduce yourself, and once you have their attention keep the conversation interesting. You have to keep them entertained, if the conversation gets boring quickly or she doesn’t engage they are obviously not into you.
Maintain eye contact and smile, if she gets flustered or smiles, you know you have her. Smiling is free, it’s friendly, and it’s welcoming.
Be honest about your intentions. Some woman may think they want hear certain lies but at the end you wont be the person they expected and end up with a bad rep, its better to be honest and put your cards on the table.
Compliment women, especially about their image and accessories. They work really hard to look good. Let them know you noticed and appreciate it.
Have fun! There is hardly anything more attractive than fun. Having her smile and laugh at your jokes. If she is smiling and laughing when she is around you, you can be assured she is comfortable and probably attracted to you.
"Love yourself", Be a person who is proud of who they are. How can you expect a girl to like you if you don’t like yourself.
You are the man, take the lead. She wants this, and if you do something she doesn’t like she will stop you or tell you. But be respectful when engaging.
Don’ts
Use cheesy tacky picks up lines. They won’t work.
Ask generic questions or give generic answers; it’s not a job interview. Nobody wants to hear that. She won't stick to long to hear it.
No matter what kind of music is on don’t sneak up behind them and start dancing (dry humping them). In fact do not touch them in general, if you don't know them.
Be extremely drunk: we know you want to loosen up with a couple of drinks; so approaching women is less challenging. However, girls don’t appreciate some drunk dude all over them slurring while he tries to sound coherent. So ease up on the shots.
Be over Cocky. Woman like a confident man, but they don't want some narcissist who thinks he's god's gift to women. It's hard to determine sometimes what is too much confidence. So feel it out and avoid talking yourself up to much. All girls and situations are different.
Think about the negative. Keep it positive, and only worry about what you want. Do not Fear failure remember the more No’s the closer to a yes, its Law of Averages.
Waste time. Don’t be indecisive about approaching women. Men life is short, you’re here today and you might be gone tomorrow.
At the end, of the day the best advice we can give is to be your self, respect woman and have fun. "Way back when (looking at my parents, grand parents and etc now), men displayed chivalrous acts toward women. These days, I feel men require prompting to do so. Behave like gentlemen in a social setting... because anything other than that is NOT a good look". Says Aradia Knight
If a woman is going to be with you, let it be for who you are. Trust me you rather pick up and hang with a woman that you will have a good time with, rather than a boring stuck up daddy’s girl.
Guys, Tell us what works for you? Girls, what really gets your attention?
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